full circle
Joe. Blogs #71 – Sunday 24 March 2024
Howzit guys!
A Very busy week on the workfront for me! BUT I did manage to fit in a few padel matches and even a game of golf!!
I started to think about the philosophy of everything going ‘full circle’ and what that actually means.
Full circle essentially means that something starts and ends…but in this case it can only end when the issue is resolved, completed or closed.
Emotionally speaking, an issue that we are struggling with can only go full circle once it has been resolved or literally dealt with effectively. BUT herein lies the problem. We sometimes think that something has gone full circle but find out sometime later that it isn’t…
We think that in order to solve an issue we just need to make a change. This for the most part is true. As they say, change is the best medicine. But sometimes this change is not enough for the issue to be resolved and a full circle achieved.
In our haste to achieve or move on we forget or mistakenly think that the issue is resolved. Unfortunately, another common saying literally comes back to bite us – and that is when we continually hit our heads against the wall until we learn the lesson intended.
So, if we have not achieved the full circle resolution, life has a way of putting the unresolved issue back in our path so that we are forced to deal with it effectively. Most people still might choose to sidestep the issue without realising why it happened in the first place! For me, I like to think of them as obstacles rather than hitting our heads against the wall! 😊
I left JHB, which was the biggest change that I was most comfortable to make and thought that most of my problems would go away naturally. Some did, such as the daily stress of not living with the traffic and other stress factors that JHB daily life threw at me.
I must stress that my impressions of JHB and how it affected me are very personal and the JHB bashing is also a personal one. The many factors that led me to leave were situational, having a very profound effect on my psyche.
I was fortunate enough to be able to leave JHB and personally I am so glad that I did. I was born and raised in JHB for many years, it was all I knew…but the very love of my birthplace was the exact fight we are all having. To what point do we have to go before its too late? Yes, we all love Jozi’s vibe and its people but to what extent and how much are we sacrificing in the process?
For me, I thought most of my issues were resolved and had gone full circle, but the past two weeks told me otherwise. Not only did I stumble a bit, but the road rose right up to hit me on the head itself!!
My circle was incomplete…but I realised it was incomplete because I had not released or dealt with the issues that made me leave JHB.
After this reality hit me, I realised that I had to close the circle…and quickly! It was the final ‘open wound’ that I was carrying around with me and I thought the distance would help heal me.
As with any long-distance relationship, the issues often take longer to come to the surface.
And so, this week I can say a proper goodbye to the people I thought were my friends but more so my support base. I realise now that it was not me but them that was the issue. I was ‘the frog in hot water’ and never realised how badly they were treating me at the time and mistakenly thought it would get better…
The release is a sad one for me because it was a large part of my history and who I was for a long time.
But my circle is now complete…I have gone full circle and I feel released from a period in my history that was holding me back. The circle is closed, and the unfinished business now done.
Sorry for the cryptic message this week but I think we are all dealing with some closure issues in our lives and as scary as it is to move on, we MUST remember to close the circle.
A full circle returns us back to the beginning BUT feeling better for having the experience and the strength to see it through.
Have an awesome week everyone, see you on the other side!
Later,
Joe.blogs
